Update to arrow/parquet 58.1.0 (#21044)

~Note this is a draft PR until I have completed the release of arrow 58~

## Which issue does this PR close?
- Part of apache/arrow-rs#9108
- Closes #20689
- Closes #20831

## Rationale for this change

Update to latest release of arrow

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By CI

I also manually ran
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cargo test --test sqllogictests
```

And it passes (vs failing with asserts on main):

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Author: alamb

Cargo.lock

@@ -88,19 +88,19 @@ version = "52.3.0"
 #
 # See for more details: https://github.com/rust-lang/cargo/issues/11329
 apache-avro = { version = "0.21", default-features = false }
-arrow = { version = "58.0.0", features = [
+arrow = { version = "58.1.0", features = [
     "prettyprint",
     "chrono-tz",
 ] }
-arrow-buffer = { version = "58.0.0", default-features = false }
-arrow-flight = { version = "58.0.0", features = [
+arrow-buffer = { version = "58.1.0", default-features = false }
+arrow-flight = { version = "58.1.0", features = [
     "flight-sql-experimental",
 ] }
-arrow-ipc = { version = "58.0.0", default-features = false, features = [
+arrow-ipc = { version = "58.1.0", default-features = false, features = [
     "lz4",
 ] }
-arrow-ord = { version = "58.0.0", default-features = false }
-arrow-schema = { version = "58.0.0", default-features = false }
+arrow-ord = { version = "58.1.0", default-features = false }
+arrow-schema = { version = "58.1.0", default-features = false }
 async-trait = "0.1.89"
 bigdecimal = "0.4.8"
 bytes = "1.11"
@@ -165,7 +165,7 @@ memchr = "2.8.0"
 num-traits = { version = "0.2" }
 object_store = { version = "0.13.1", default-features = false }
 parking_lot = "0.12"
-parquet = { version = "58.0.0", default-features = false, features = [
+parquet = { version = "58.1.0", default-features = false, features = [
     "arrow",
     "async",
     "object_store",